What We Don’t Say When We Talk About Sex Ed
Most of what passes for a sex talk is really just a warning. Don't do this. Don't watch that. Don't get yourself into trouble. It teaches kids what to fear,…
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The Sweet Spot: How Ice Cream Month Can Deepen Your Intimacy
By Erin Alexander, Clinical Sexologist July is the heart of summer and with it comes National Ice Cream Month and National Picnic Month. While these celebrations may seem lighthearted, they…
Beyond Alpha and Beta: What Real Masculine Strength Looks Like
For years, conversations about masculinity have been stuck in a false choice. Be the dominant Alpha who leads with control, or accept the label of Beta, the "low value" man…
Why Desire Disappears in Long-Term Relationships and How to Get It Back
By Erin Alexander, LPC-S, Clinical Sexologist They are a good partner. Kind, present, reliable. You love them. You are certain of that. And yet when they reach for you at…
Why You Cannot Stop Thinking During Sex (And What Your Brain Is Actually Telling You)
By Erin Alexander, LPC-S, Clinical Sexologist You are in the middle of an intimate moment with your partner and somewhere between the first kiss and what was supposed to be…
Commanding Intimacy: The Clinical and Erotic Power of Female-Led Relationships
By Erin Alexander, Clinical Sexologist, with Taylor Ashton Ellwood In today's evolving landscape of relationships and intimacy, more couples are exploring dynamics that move beyond traditional gender roles. One such…
Beyond the Breach: Resiliency, Professional Boundaries, and the De-Pathologizing of Betrayal
As a Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor and Clinical Sexologist, I find that many clients enter my office with significant misconceptions about the therapeutic process, the legal and ethical boundaries of my…
The Sensory Symphony: Why Your Kitchen and Your Bedroom Need the Same Menu
In another life, I am convinced I would have been a chef. While I find deep fulfillment in my work as a clinical sexologist, there is a certain magic in…
Beyond the Vanilla Script: Why Your Therapist (Probably) Values Social Democracy
For a long time, those of us working in health and mental health were taught to remain behind a veil of clinical silence. We were told that discussing politics was…
Spring Cleaning the Heart: The Power of Letting Go
As we move into a new season, many of us focus on refreshing our homes—organizing closets, cleaning out storage spaces, and creating room for something new. But what if we…