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Beyond the Breach: Resiliency, Professional Boundaries, and the De-Pathologizing of Betrayal

As a Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor and Clinical Sexologist, I find that many clients enter my office with significant misconceptions about the therapeutic process, the legal and ethical boundaries of my…

The Sensory Symphony: Why Your Kitchen and Your Bedroom Need the Same Menu

In another life, I am convinced I would have been a chef. While I find deep fulfillment in my work as a clinical sexologist, there is a certain magic in…

Beyond the Vanilla Script: Why Your Therapist (Probably) Values Social Democracy

For a long time, those of us working in health and mental health were taught to remain behind a veil of clinical silence. We were told that discussing politics was…

Spring Cleaning the Heart: The Power of Letting Go

As we move into a new season, many of us focus on refreshing our homes—organizing closets, cleaning out storage spaces, and creating room for something new. But what if we…

Radical Roots: What My Garden Taught Me About Queer Joy and Sexual Fluidity

I didn't expect to find my clinical practice growing in the soil. When I stepped back from the "clinical machinery" of crisis-oriented therapy, I traded some of that intensity for…

The Difference Between Managing and Controlling Your Inner World (And Why It Changes Everything)

Most of us grow up believing that emotional strength means having complete control over ourselves. Don’t feel anxious. Don’t think negative thoughts. Don’t feel jealous. Don’t get angry. Don’t be…

The Human Backpack: When Closeness Becomes Suffocation

Relationships · The Unscripted Equation · 5 min read Navigating the delicate balance between intimacy and personal space — and why letting your partner breathe is the best thing you…

Sexual Rage in Relationships: When Anger Finds Its Way Into the Bedroom

There is a pattern I see in clinical practice that almost nobody has a name for. A relationship that looks functional on the surface but carries something corrosive underneath. A…

When Love Stays But Trust Has Left the Room

There is a moment in many long-term relationships that nobody talks about openly. It is not the dramatic blow-up or the tearful confession, though those may have happened too. It…

Sexual Rage in the Bedroom: When Anger Wears the Mask of Intimacy

By Erin Alexander, Sexologist There is a particular kind of pain that happens when the person who is supposed to feel safest to you becomes the person you fear most…